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BUILDING STABILITY: Finding Your Ground Again (Safety & Security)
You're starting to build stability, but damn, does it feel fragile, like you’re walking on shaky ground, unsure if it will hold. The good news? You are already doing the work. The challenge? Learning to trust that stability takes time, and your nervous system is still adjusting.Right now, your healing means setting boundaries (without guilt), creating financial and emotional safety, and realizing that you don’t have to live in fight-or-flight mode forever. You are allowed to trust stability, even if it’s unfamiliar. You do not have to earn it. You do not have to wait for it to be taken away.
Healing Stage: You are growing, even when it feels slow.
Change takes time, and every step you take is building a stronger foundation. You’ve started making changes, but old habits, stress, and fear still pull you back sometimes. And that’s okay because this is part of the process.
🔹 You’re working on boundaries, but it’s hard.
🔹 Financial, emotional, or relationship stability is still inconsistent.
🔹 You’re getting a glimpse of what peace could feel like, but it’s not always within reach.
Validation: If chaos has been familiar, it makes sense that stability might feel temporary or even unsafe. Your mind and body have been trained to expect the worst—but healing is teaching them that safety is possible. It’s normal to doubt it at first. Keep going.
Actionable Steps: What You Need Right Now
✨If setting boundaries feels overwhelming, start small. Even saying I need a minute is a step toward protecting your energy.
✨Create small, non-negotiable habits that make you feel safe. This could be a night routine, journaling, or even just keeping your space clean.
✨ Focus on financial or emotional security. Start tracking your spending, create an emergency plan, or cut out toxic energy drains.
✨Reframe negative self-talk. When you catch yourself thinking, I don’t deserve this, pause. Ask yourself: What if I do? What if I’ve always deserved peace, and I’m just learning how to accept it?
Content Warning: Personal Reflections Ahead
The following section contains personal insights and experiences related to healing and trauma. While shared with the intention of fostering connection and understanding, some content may evoke strong emotions. Please ensure you're in a comfortable and safe space before proceeding. Remember, it's okay to pause, take a break, or seek support as needed.
Personal Note: Anytime I found myself in the Building Stability stage, I struggled to stay there. No matter how much I wanted stability, I would find myself pulled back into survival mode. It was like my body was wired for chaos. The highs and lows of past relationships had conditioned me to expect instability. When things were calm, it felt unfamiliar almost like something was missing.It took almost losing my partner before I realized I had a problem. I remember the moment; it hit me like a wave, a mix of panic, grief, and the gut-wrenching fear that I was about to lose something real. My body finally caught up to what my heart had been trying to tell me: I was pushing away someone who valued and respected me.When things got too quiet, I would pick a fight. Not because I wanted to cause harm, but because conflict felt familiar. When I fought with my partner, I felt a rush: anger, adrenaline, intensity. More than that, I felt validated when he refused to leave. It reassured me that I was worth fighting for. I had never learned what stability felt like, so my body resisted it.Over time, I was able to pause before picking a fight, think rationally, and choose a different path. I started recognizing my body’s responses: my racing heart, the tightness in my chest, the impulse to create distance. Instead of acting on those reactions, I learned to sit with them. Once I was able to break that cycle, we were able to build a healthy connection; one that has lasted almost 10 years.Now I know this:
I learned that stability isn’t boring—it’s safe.
That peace isn’t the absence of love—it’s the foundation of it.
And that real love doesn’t leave when the chaos quiets down.Now, almost 10 years later, we’ve built something strong—something I never thought was possible for me. And if I could break that cycle, I know others can too.
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